It was a rough ride—feeling worthless, like a nobody without him. It was his way or the highway, and no matter what I did, I was drowning in guilt.
The crazy part?
At first.
This wasn’t my first rodeo. I had another relationship prior - just not as toxic.
But when my marriage ended, I went all in on my healing.
I read the books, and learned about trauma, and went to therapy - I did everything “right”.
So when I ended up in ANOTHER toxic relationship, the shame hit hard.
I started asking myself:
This time, I refused to stop. This was my final straw. I had to finally move forward and repair everything that he broke.
So I went back; I read the books and consumed the content AGAIN, but I felt like something was missing.
I expected to feel like I had evolved, like I had been reborn.
But no matter how much I knew I had healed,
I didn’t feel different. And that’s when I realized:
Sounds obvious, right?
Issue is, what I learned was the theory.
It’s like the difference between a person who read all the books on music theory and sat down to play the piano for the first time...
and someone who has spent the same amount of time actually playing.
Who will play better?
Of course, the one who put their fingers on the keys and practiced.
And guess what?
I didn’t learn it from anyone else. It came to me, because I lived it.
See, simply understanding your pain won't make you feel different.
And that’s where most people get stuck.
So I'll let you in on a secret:
It is something you make part of your life, until it becomes second nature.
If you do the work on a surface level, you’ll get surface-level results.
If you lean in, face the discomfort, and embody the change—you’ll see the difference immediately.
It’s just like the saying:
I had to surrender to everything I tried to resist.
My wounds, my regrets, my pains.
Instead of running away from what I hated most, I embraced and explored it.
I finally had compassion for myself.
Instead of desperately searching for someone else to validate me and to make me feel okay with who I was.
I found love for me.
Acknowledging every single cut, bruise, and scar; allowing them to become part of me.
Healing isn’t just about feeling better.
It's about gaining a power that protects you from repeating the same toxic patterns.
How?
Because once you truly heal, you start seeing everything more clearly.
The red flags become IMPOSSIBLE to unsee. The energy people give off; what they say, what they don't say.
It becomes crystal clear.
That gut feeling? It tells you everything you need to know about someone before your mind even catches up.
It becomes your sixth sense.
You will NEVER look at people the same way again.
If I had trusted this ability back then,
I can only imagine how much time I could’ve saved.
How many moments of self-betrayal I could have avoided.
But here’s the thing—I wouldn’t trade my experience for anything.
Because now, I get to reach out and pull others out of the same darkness I once lived in.
You might be wondering:
Here’s the truth:
Conventional ways of “healing”:
Or:
And if you’re lucky, they will help you understand your problem, but offer little solution.
And I speak from experience.
A lot of people have had this experience.
While therapy and coaching CAN be valuable, healing is deeply personal.
They find themselves in a hefty heap of problems and issues—but the way they overcome them is always unique to them and their situation.
Not everything that works for others will work for you.
That is the beauty of this type of healing,
And once you learn to trust your own intuition, you’ll never second-guess yourself again.
Having lived through narcissistic abuse, self-abandonment, and the deep confusion that comes with toxic relationships, I know what it feels like to lose yourself.
I know what it’s like to feel isolated, questioning everything, unaware of the manipulation that’s happening.
That’s why I created this platform—not just to bring awareness, but to build a community of people who have walked this same path.
One of the most heartbreaking things I’ve seen is how many people don’t even realize they’re in an abusive relationship.
They brush their pain off as normal relationship stuff…
And what’s even more tragic?
The people who suffer the most in these relationships are often the kindest, most giving, most selfless souls.
The ones who would do anything for their partner, out of pure love.
It pains me to see people who deserve the best, end up with the absolute worst.
I have dedicated the last 2 years of my life breaking down the 16 years of healing I went through into bite-sized chunks for the people that don’t have that luxury.
If you have ever had to record an argument to prove to yourself that you’re not crazy.
OR you regularly google narcissism and toxic behaviour.
OR you just know SOMETHING isn’t right.
There’s no need to keep looking for answers.
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